Thursday, December 1, 2011

Making Room for One More

For many years, my son Seth and I have functioned a bit like each other's side-kick. Yes, my other sons, and now my new daughter-in-love, were in our lives, but mostly it was Seth and I making our way through. Once my middle son, Keith, moved out with his fiancĂ©e, Seth and I were dependent on each other for so many things—mostly for being there for each other. This was good, and worked perfectly for both of us.

It would be no surprise to anyone who was close to us that the entrance of a new entity—especially one that would be taking up so much of my time and attention, not to mention space in my driveway and my bed—was going to mess with this formula that was cultivated over so many years. But me being me and Seth being Seth would require that this major change in "mommy's" life would have to have some ease and grace with it.

Now even a very mature 15-year-old might not consciously require such a thing as ease and grace, but when you are a PK (preacher's kid), especially one who has been reared around a high conversation regarding consciousness, responsibility for one's life, Truth, integrity and God, the desire for life to be and feel good becomes innate. So I watch as he works to share his mom, and most times he does it with great respect. He sits with mom's new distraction, converses, complains together when the Giants are losing, and greets him with a smile and enthusiasm. That part is all working beautifully.

The other aspect is pure conjecture on my part, but I do believe a reasonable and logical one; but again, my conjecture and probably, if I'm honest, a projection. The part that is still distracted in this beautiful son of mine is the little boy in him, the part he doesn't know exists—the part that will feel concern over a major change and how this change will affect the totality of his life. All of this is perfectly natural and we, my new distraction and I, are dedicated to making room for Seth to be as he is in his perfection.

What truly is beautiful here is the way in which all of my sons are happy for me. They, each in their own way, are welcoming this beautiful person into my life probably because of how happy I am. But still, it is a very interesting time for me to see my sons as the amazing, wondering, loving and mature beings who only want the best for me. Each of them in his own way is making room for one more. Yes, one more at our kitchen table gatherings (we love to sit close to each other around a small table when the dining room is very available), one more in our holiday rituals, one more in their scheduled time with me, and I know, over time, each will make room for one more in their hearts as well.

All this would not have been possible though if I had not made room in my heart. And this is why I keep up my spiritual practices at all times. This is why I keep up my conscious languaging, my prayer work, my time for contemplation. When we heal inside, our world changes form, our bodies change form, and our hearts open to more good. My sons can make room for one more because I finally said Yes and shifted the whole world with my Yes.

Stay in practice, stay awake and for God's sake STAY IN LOVE!

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Feeling the All of Life

Have you ever been in midst of pure, unadulterated feeling; a feeling so pure that you can’t quite put a name on it, a feeling that isn’t good or not good? It is just feeling. I have. It seems to happen when I am in a place of openness and availability. One of those times when I’m choosing to be fully present to unedited version of life.

It is safe to say that the holidays or as I like to refer to them the Holy season is often a time that provides all of the necessary conditions for this experience. You know what I mean, you watch all of your favorite old movies, the ones that make you laugh and cry at the same time. You look at pictures of seasons past and memories come wafting to your mind or you smell something baking and in that moment you are returned to your mother’s or grandmother’s kitchen.

Sometimes I experience a feeling as the result of judgment, upon me, of course. There is a sadness that comes at the moment when I am busy pondering the totality of my life. The fact is, that I have tried to do the best that I can throughout my life, I have. Yet, it appears that so much of my best has left a trail of wrong doing, sadness and regret that no matter how fast I run or what I do now, will not wash away the stain of who I have been. Or so it seems in the midst of it.

On the other hand, sometimes this feeling is the result of me pondering my future and my goals. These ponderances bring a feeling of hope and a sense of possibility and then I am filled to overflowing with these emotions. As I sit in gratitude for love, intimate love, motherly love, and self-love, deep emotions begin to well up once again.

Isn’t it wonderful that we – spiritual beings having this human experience – get to FEEL? I am so grateful for my ability to feel without shrinking back or hiding. Do you let yourself feel? Do you free yourself to be in that visceral experience that dares your heart to open? I know it is scary, I do. I’m scared, but only for moments because I remind myself immediately to be present to what is right now. In this present moment, there is no judgment, no requirements, no need to be different in any way. For this now is truly always perfect.

For me transparency is extrememly important; the reason why will remain mine for the moment, but it still remains important. So at the risk of exposing myself a bit too much, I write and I publish this blog. Hopefully it supports you and your freedom. Much love to you throughout this Holy Season. May you feel fully alive and may you feel safe feeling it in its raw and beautiful state.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

I'd like to introduce you to someone - me!

This woman standing before you has never been in relationship before. Truly, she hasn’t, not ever. Although her years are not few, she is new to life in relationship. Her hearing is fresh and can hear only words of love. Her speech is new and refined and can only speak and report from an expanded point of view.  The words that fall forth from her mouth are loving and tender. Her eyes dance over the surface of everything as she sees Truth and is in constant awe of perfection.
Oh, this woman, is the very activity of love and so brings this to all aspects of her life but mostly to her relationship. She brings an open heart as she fearlessly strides forward toward the open arms of her other and she is received with equal receptivity. This newness is birthed from her new mind, her healed heart and a willingness to receive a full portion of good as determined by her birthright.
No, this woman has never been in relationship before. This woman will not be defined by any wounds, stories or old ideas; for now is her only time and here her only place. Her lover receives this untainted expression and meets it with his open and healed heart, his open and free mind and his wide open arms.
This is a virgin relationship, brought together in consciousness, and supported by an endless flow of love and joy and humor. Oh, how a new and untainted mind creates such beauty. No stories that matter. No wounds that distract. There is only choice and peace and loving intention.
So let me introduce you to this new woman who has never been in relationship before, it is me, I am here and I am walking in love, being love. Thank you God for transforming all the aspects of me that made this possible.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

The distraction of passion

Yes, I normally use this blog as an outreach for my spirituality and a way to vent but sometimes something else moves me. Hey, its my blog anyway.

She decided to be available, so she opened her heart.
She decided to let love in, so she opened her heart.
Once her heart was open, creation began.
Once her heart was open, she prepared to feel.
As the feelings began to flow, her world changed form.
As the feelings began to flow, her world sped up.
But she remembered a promise she made to herself,
   she would maintain her equilibrium, she would stay
   grounded even while tantalized, distracted and consumed
   by passion.
As her promise was kept, her heart remained open, love showed up,
   and creation ensued. But grounded she remained as she
   returned to the deepest place of love - her love.
So - her heart remained open, and love rushed in, and
   feelings exploded, and creativity poured forth as
   grounded she stayed in her god, in her way, in the
   most intimate sanctuary of all, her heart.
And this was good, for her cup was full and her lover
   could drink of her fullness.
Intoxicated they both fell into a dance of ecstasy.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

BE THE SOLUTION

This following article is part of a series that has just been relaunched. Enjoy!

Be the Solution is Back
 Be the Solution, a self-coaching opportunity to support you in clearing out that which stands between your current experience and your desired experience, is back from a very long sabbatical. You can choose to sign up for this program by sending an email to BE THE SOLUTION, or by signing up on Sundays at the Center. The Science of Mind© is referred to by many as Practical Spirituality. This program is to support readers in applying the tools and principles that we teach.

Making a commitment to the application of these principles in your daily life is what separates this teaching from a “Sunday only” religion. If what we teach matters, then it is worthy of your time, attention and practice. And remember, practice doesn’t really make perfect if you are practicing imperfectly; however, practicing perfectly makes perfect. What is perfect? Any practice that keeps you and your life in a constant state of evolution and revealing.
So to re-launch Be the Solution, we bring to you: Practice No Complaining.

In addition to being an annoying quality, complaining is simply not effective. It will never get you where you want to be—ever. In other words, you can’t get there from here. Why? Because complaining is a mechanism of destruction, and not a mechanism of creativity and possibility. Think of your thoughts as a path being laid out before you to support you reaching your ultimate goal. Does it make sense that complaining could ever reveal to you a path of peace, harmony and possibility? Not to me. Only a path laid out through harmony, love and graciousness can provide a path that will carry me to where I want to be.

Let me share my influences on this matter so you can do further research yourself. My quest to rise above the complaining habit began with Emma Curtis Hopkins and her book Scientific Christian Mental Science; it continued with Eckart Tolle and his book The New Earth, and, finally, the piece of work which drove the point over the top was by a brilliant metaphysician, Christian Larson, in his book The Ideal Made Real.  If you have to choose only one to read, choose the latter; it says it all within the first two chapters.
Taking on this life transforming habit took me into a lot of practice and contemplation, and I came to realize that my mother, God bless her heart, had two main languages: gossiping and complaining. Now I am not complaining or blaming, but I did have to accept that I had known these two languages way too intimately for too long. No wonder my life wasn’t working smoothly.

So this is a simple—ha!—task. Stop it. Yes, that’s my entire spiel; stop the complaining. Catch it every time; cease the action both out loud and in your mind. Begin with a 30-day commitment to NO LONGER COMPLAIN ABOUT ANYONE OR ANYTHING TO ANYONE, not even to yourself. Here’s the gift. Every time you stop you will feel a sense of relief, and in no time, you will begin to retrieve a boatload of energy—the type of energy needed to feel better, to be happier, and to have better relationships. Yes, this is a promise. If you take on this practice today, you will feel so much better so quickly that you will lose your taste for it, and it will cease.

A great point that Eckart Tolle makes in his book is that every time we complain, we assume ourselves to be a victim. Victim consciousness is extremely limiting, and does promote a life experience that leads to happiness. As with each practice, let’s remember that the practice is to support our individual shift in consciousness to Life is good, Life is grand, and I am deserving of my full measure.  

Live in a household of people who are moaners and complainers? See if you can engage them in this 30-day challenge. Enroll them in the possibility of greater freedom and newly found energy. You can even make it a game with a prize at the end. Do this and watch what transforms in your home. I have created a PDF that you can download and hang on your front door to forewarn visitors as they enter, which is located on: www.cslnj.org
 Also, hang it on your refrigerator and bathroom mirrors—all the important places. Imagine what a great holiday practice and gift this would be to change the energy in your home through this No-Complaining Practice.

As always, do your best each and every day. Be loving, gentle and forgiving with yourself and if you make a mistake, simply begin anew.
Enjoy your practice. Enjoy your life,
Michelle

Friday, October 28, 2011

A prayer for my family

Living a Life of Abundance

Dedicated to my family by Mom, Michelle

    There is One Life.

    This One Life is everywhere present, always available, always flowing and always creating out of the Good that It is.

    This One Life is wherever I am, in every moment, of any day.

    There is no separation, never has been and never will be.

    Today I step into full availability with this all good, all love and all creativity.

    I accept my birthright of this full measure of good.

    Through my acceptance Life shows up on my doorstep with ease, grace and wonderful prosperity. Yes, I accept who I am, exactly as I am and as I am not, knowing that I am worthy of an extraordinary Life, fully expressed, fully prospered.

    There are no prior thoughts, ideas, beliefs that have any power over me or distract me from my good. Any ideas of fear, doubt, lack or limitation are neutralized now and forever.

    Yes, I say yes to all of my life unfolding naturally and effortlessly.

    I act and speak faithfully. Not having faith of something outside of me, but faith of that Ever-present Good within me. My mind is steady and on target as I set my intentions to live a fully prospered and abundant life. Not a life of materialism but one of generosity and flow. I give from my overflow and reap the benefits of this flow as love, as good as ease and grace.

    With bountiful gratitude for the abundance that I see and experience all around me, my gratitude activates even more good and I accept this activity through me.

    Trusting that I have just spoken the truth, I let it be so. And so it is. Amen.

                                                                                                        






Thursday, October 6, 2011

Nice Guys Finish Last!

Ranting again - enter at your own risk

Don't you just hate that statement or at least the idea of that statement? And it has taken forever for me to actually make sense of it. I normally like to at least assume that a motto like this one was originally based in some kind of reality that was worthy of understanding. So I take time with statements like this to try and back into the wisdom or the logic that created it in the first place.
According to dictionary.com nice means: pleasing; agreeable; delightful; amiably pleasant; kind etc.
If you look it up in a thesaurus, it offers: admirable, amiable, approved, attractive; peachy, pleasant, pleasurable, or polite.
We'll come back to this.
I know some nice people, really, some very, very nice people who would open their home to you, give up their bed for you and give you the shirt off their back. I like these people; I aspire at times to be thought of as nice because of how much I like certain people. Are you hearing the but coming. . .
Nice is very good in many places but nice can very definitely get in the way when being nice interrupts progress, productivity or for individuals who want to climb out of the world of mediocrity. Very often an individual will sabotage their own personal desire for greatness, order and success to maintain a composure of niceness. Might this sound familiar to you? Am I speaking about you?
Back to the definition. Nice is nice but I personally want more then nice. Nice is good but it doesn't motivate me. Integrity, success, clarity motivates me. I am inspired by individuals who do not settle for mediocrity and are always reaching for EXCELLENCE. So nice is nice, but I want more.

Let's take a look: imagine you are dealing with someone who agreed to do something but they didn't follow through. Unfortunately for you, you really needed them to do what they said they would do and in not doing so, you cannot complete your part of the project. So you find yourself standing in front of this person asking them about their agreement and they begin to offer you their explanation (code for excuse) and instead of holding them to their agreement, you smile and say you understand. Why? Because you’re NICE! Yikes, how is that working?

What happens when this happens? What happens is that you collude with that individual's self image as less then. What happens is that you sacrifice your desire for order, success and greatness in order to be nice. What happens is, you walk away with a false smile on your face, and this person thinks you’re nice but you are stuck in the loop of mediocrity.

As a graduate of Landmark Education's Forum and Advance course, I was deeply moved by their focus on clarity, greatness and integrity. The influence of this education left me reaching for a greater experience of my leadership and what has become crystal clear is being nice is a form of self-sabotage. Greatness, potency, accomplishment and excellence are a different mindset and standard then nice. Thank God I have also now learned that you can hold someone to their agreement in support of their greatness. This means that when I choose to collude with greatness sometimes the idea of just being nice has got to go. So in a way, I am taking a stand for them more than they are for themselves. Because the norm is comfortable and greatness makes us stretch.

Nice guys finish last because they take the crumbs, they want to be nice more then they want to experience their greatness, because they don't want to push people and leave a bad taste in any one's mouth. But there is salvation, you can be nice and be clear; you can be nice and collude with the greatness of others; you can be nice and live a life beyond mediocrity.

Nice guys can finish first! How? Be nice and clear. Be nice and definite. Be nice and collude with your highest and best and the highest and best of others. Don't let people let you down because they can't do that without letting others down. Take a stand for greatness, yours and others!

Thursday, September 29, 2011

What are the chances?

What are the chances that I would be sitting in my living room on the phone in prayer when a 4" in diameter branch would come flying out of my tree?
What are the chances that one of my oldest cats would be hanging out on the deck at that exact time - UNDER THE BRANCH - only to get hit in the head?
No joke, this happened just yesterday morning. My cat is now at the vet for emergency care and I am hundreds of dollars lighter in my purse.
I will have to report back to you, she is trying to stay alive and I am still in prayer.
That was yesterday. Through the night, she made some strides toward recovery. This morning I await the doctors call.
I am truly fascinated by how Life creates coincidences to show up to keep us mere mortals at attention.
There must be Order that we cannot see from our point of view. There must be a Divine Intelligence within which is a higher idea.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

STOP IT! And start ANEW!

STOP it!
Stop it!
Stop the gossip.
Stop the complaining.
Stop the judging.
Stop the criticism.
Stop the incessment practice of making anyone wrong.
Stop the self-hatred.
Stop the violence.
Stop the racism and all the other ism's.
Stop the comparisons.
Stop the sarcasm.
Stop withholding your love.
Stop withholding your heart.
Stop withholding your generosity.
Go back to basics:
Practice:
FORGIVENESS!
Forgiveness for all.
Forgiveness for the past.
Forgiveness for yourself.
Forgiveness for humankind and its insanity.
Forgiveness for what preceeded you here.
JUST GIVE IT UP!
Practice:
LOVE!
Love - unexplained.
Love - full-out.
Love - for all.
Love - for Oneself.
Love - for all of humanity.
LOVE - for all, unexplained and exuberant.
Love and total acceptance for who you are and who you are not.
Love all of your spiritual family - those you know and those you don't.
Love the creator by any name: God, Spirit, Life, Energy, Creative Power by any name.
Love when it's easy and when it's not.
Love with all your heart, with all your soul!
Practice:
GRATITUDE!
In this way and for EVERYTHING BECAUSE EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS FOR YOU, WORKING IN YOUR FAVOR!
I am grateful for ALL of my life, without exceptions.
I am grateful for the good, the glorious and the graceful.
I am grateful for the challenging (anything which makes me grow).
I am grateful for my bodytemple and how it functions as it is.
I am grateful for my mind, my heart, my soul.
I am grateful for my birth family, adopted family and spiritual family.
I am grateful for every experience in my life that led me to here.
I am grateful for my employers and/or my employees.
I am grateful for my spiritual and religious influences
I am grateful the Creative Source of Intelligence that gave life and expression to me.
And I am grateful for the All of me, the More of me, the Not Yet Expressed of me.
Now begin being the YOU that YOU want to be!

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

A call to service

I am sharing with you here, an email I sent out to my community yesterday.
Prayer is good. Prayer and movement for me is natural and in Principle. This was my call to "arms", so to speak.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.


Time to roll up our sleeves
Being the "good" Religious Science student that I am, this past Friday morning upon hearing about the Tsunami, the very first thing that I did was prayer treatment. I continued with alerting all of my ministerial body to solicit their treatment support, contacted my Practitioner body for their treatment support and then wrote a prayer for our email list. I have done my due diligence.


But what's next is the question that is being asked and I would like to answer it as I contemplate the serenity prayer and remember that we are One human family.
Here are my suggestions:
Always begin by doing your work in consciousness first.
Stay informed.
Talk about it, keep the energy for support alive.
Move the conversation as soon as you can to possibility, support & solution.
Ask yourself this important question: What is mine to do?
Then ask the leadership of any organization that you might belong to what they are doing? Prod them to get involved.
Get involved yourself by attaching yourself to anyone who is doing something responsible.


While doing all of this count your blessings and always touch the place of compassion within you - never the place of pity. Pity is a heavy and ineffective energy while compassion will move your heart and your feet.


Remember this: With God all these are possible. Lean into God for your strength, inspiration and guidance. God as YOU will know what to do and when the call comes, say YES.


It is my intention as the Spiritual Leader of this Center to make something happen. What that will look like is yet to be determined?
If you would like to be part of the solution please CALL the office and leave your name and phone number and tell us what it is you have to offer the cause.
973.669.1900
Blessings to all of us, may we find our bounty and the wisdom to act responsibly and heartfully.