It is all about YOU!

So often, the most poignant truth is in the paradox. Yes, right there in the mix of contrasting opinions and points of view, a truth will be sprawled out, waiting to be plucked. Here is a paradox that leads to a truth that can very possibly save your life.

According to Don Miguel Ruiz and his Four Agreements, one of the agreements is “Don't take anything personally.” This is a perfect solution to all things in live time while they are happening. BUT, after the fact, if the current event slipped by your don't take anything personally filter, and has had an opportunity to spark a reaction in you, then a new skill is required.

This is the skill of taking everything personally, and totally realizing that it is all about you. Here is the difference. Prior to having a reaction of any kind, while using don't take anything personally as a really good guideline and standard, if you are accurately in practice, you should be able to prevent attaching yourself to an emotion or a story hence, alleviating a lot of pain. Once the emotion has taken up residence in your mind, asking yourself a set of powerful questions (Listed below) can help you find your own responsibility in the experience, heal the emotions, release the story, and free yourself. Let's take a look at some possible questions. (These are meant to be gentle questions of inquiry and NEVER, NEVER meant to create blame, shame, or suffering. so they must be executed with great self-love, patience and gentleness or we will be creating more of what we are trying to heal.)

·        What am I feeling about . . . ?

·        What did bring to the table or the room?

·        How familiar is this feeling?

·        How old is this feeling?

·        Who can I become, once healed of this feeling/reaction?

These questions, or others that might be similar, will lead you to look within and not without, will lead you to look at your mind, your thoughts and your consciousness. After all, the power of a metaphysician lives in his or her understanding and willingness to look within and heal within. ANY time we attempt to fix our outer world, we are looking and working in the wrong, and very limited, direction of effect. If we want a powerful life experience, it must be because we deal only on the inner landscape of our own minds and hearts. Trying to deal outside of ourselves is a misdirection and waste of time.

You cannot fix the world by any attempt to:

·        say the right thing,

·        do the right thing,

·        by trying to be "nice" (look at my earlier blog),

·        by being addicted to be liked.

If we take time to own the fact that what we are feeling is a reaction to our stories, our wounds, and our misunderstandings, and, instead of blaming anyone, even ourselves, we simply embrace the experiences as an healing opportunities, then we get to look at all of life as FOR US. Yes, life is for us if we remember to look through that filter. So when I say, “It is all about you,” what this actually means is this: If you are willing to look at life as an opportunity that presents you with clues to your greatness, you will never be without learning material.

When, during an upset, I remember to look within, and ask myself what this means to me, when I remember to look at others involved as a reflection of my consciousness, and not blame them, I find all the material I need to have greater and greater freedom.

Yes, it is all about you, in all the best ways; on the path to personal freedom, strength and true emancipation.