It is all about YOU!

So often, the most poignant truth is in the paradox. Yes, right there in the mix of contrasting opinions and points of view, a truth will be sprawled out, waiting to be plucked. Here is a paradox that leads to a truth that can very possibly save your life.

According to Don Miguel Ruiz and his Four Agreements, one of the agreements is “Don't take anything personally.” This is a perfect solution to all things in live time while they are happening. BUT, after the fact, if the current event slipped by your don't take anything personally filter, and has had an opportunity to spark a reaction in you, then a new skill is required.

This is the skill of taking everything personally, and totally realizing that it is all about you. Here is the difference. Prior to having a reaction of any kind, while using don't take anything personally as a really good guideline and standard, if you are accurately in practice, you should be able to prevent attaching yourself to an emotion or a story hence, alleviating a lot of pain. Once the emotion has taken up residence in your mind, asking yourself a set of powerful questions (Listed below) can help you find your own responsibility in the experience, heal the emotions, release the story, and free yourself. Let's take a look at some possible questions. (These are meant to be gentle questions of inquiry and NEVER, NEVER meant to create blame, shame, or suffering. so they must be executed with great self-love, patience and gentleness or we will be creating more of what we are trying to heal.)

·        What am I feeling about . . . ?

·        What did bring to the table or the room?

·        How familiar is this feeling?

·        How old is this feeling?

·        Who can I become, once healed of this feeling/reaction?

These questions, or others that might be similar, will lead you to look within and not without, will lead you to look at your mind, your thoughts and your consciousness. After all, the power of a metaphysician lives in his or her understanding and willingness to look within and heal within. ANY time we attempt to fix our outer world, we are looking and working in the wrong, and very limited, direction of effect. If we want a powerful life experience, it must be because we deal only on the inner landscape of our own minds and hearts. Trying to deal outside of ourselves is a misdirection and waste of time.

You cannot fix the world by any attempt to:

·        say the right thing,

·        do the right thing,

·        by trying to be "nice" (look at my earlier blog),

·        by being addicted to be liked.

If we take time to own the fact that what we are feeling is a reaction to our stories, our wounds, and our misunderstandings, and, instead of blaming anyone, even ourselves, we simply embrace the experiences as an healing opportunities, then we get to look at all of life as FOR US. Yes, life is for us if we remember to look through that filter. So when I say, “It is all about you,” what this actually means is this: If you are willing to look at life as an opportunity that presents you with clues to your greatness, you will never be without learning material.

When, during an upset, I remember to look within, and ask myself what this means to me, when I remember to look at others involved as a reflection of my consciousness, and not blame them, I find all the material I need to have greater and greater freedom.

Yes, it is all about you, in all the best ways; on the path to personal freedom, strength and true emancipation.

Love knows no bounds

      I am so very, very pleased, proud and supportive of President Obama for taking a stand for something, which I am sure he is receiving a mountain of flak. I am certain that many of his advisers cautioned him and I am certain that the conservatives and ultra conservatives are planning on pulling their votes as we speak.
     But I, for one, am proud. His action is so totally consistent with what this country stands for. His willingness to speak out on this subject makes him one of the bravest presidents we have ever had. Those of us who are considered the cultural creatives of the world will sleep easier tonight, knowing that someone is listening to more then just the popular vote.
    This is the first time that I have ever commented on something political. But can love really be political? Isn't that what we are talking about? Aren't we talking about governing love? Yes, but can we, really? Do we have a right to, really? A better question is, should we? No, love is not political, it is a principle that must be allowed and maintained.
    Thank you Mr. President for taking a stand for Gay marriage, for love, for truth, for what is right.

Moms

You are young and you are old.

Your role was by choice, and then sometimes it was not.

You had a choice, you said yes, and life for you was never the same again.

You had a choice, you said no, and life for you was never the same again.

You tried and you tried to receive that seed, and you questioned why not. You watch the mothers around you, and you continue to wonder why not? Why not me? Sadness, grief, and loss fill you.

You looked and you saw faces that needed to be loved so you made room in your heart, in your mind, and in your home. You didn’t have much, but you shared it anyway.

You said yes, and delivered to you was not the bouncing baby that you expected, but one who didn’t measure up, who wasn’t the same, who would grow you, stretch you and have you cry in the night.

You took him to the doctor, you fed him vitamins, you tucked him in at night, and sent him to school in the morning, but he didn’t see that car coming, and he didn’t know to protect himself from that drunk driver. You say goodbye.

You took all the right precautions, you taught her to protect herself, to say no, never to drive with strangers, but you didn’t know the evil was already under your roof. You say goodbye to innocence and wrap your arms around her and never let go.

You get up morning after morning, after a late night, with a fever, and put food on the table, say I love you, and go into your cave and pray. Pray for guidance, for protection, and for tons of patience.

Then they age, and gather opinions— opinions about you. They don’t always remember the little things, the tough things, the thousands of hours of care, but they will remember what you said wrong or did wrong or what you forgot. And you love them anyway.

Then you look back and wish you had done more, given more, loved more, angered less, and you pray for forgiveness.

You are young and you are old, but your heart is the heart of a mother, the one ancient mother, the one who will rise again, will love again. You are of the infinite essence of the maternal, guided by the wisdom that is a millennium old, you are Mother.